The Love Just Ain’t Enough Rule

Sometimes, love just ain't enough

I know, I know.. love conquers all, it can move mountains, hell, it makes the world go round.  But in relationships, even the most crazy-in-love type of couples get ticked off every once in a while.  One moment of disappointment, one moment of hurt can blow off everything a bf-gf has ever hardly built.  One snap of bad timing and boom, he's single, she's single.  Yes, they love each other, but sometimes other emotions grow much stronger. Pride takes over, anger takes over, love? Set aside.

So is it enough?  Your answer might still be yes, but you have got to admit, it is not (well at least not at all times).  Sometimes it needs a little help, too.  Love has friends you know and those are (but not limited to) maturity, honesty, the ability to compromise, communication, trust, understanding, fidelity, faith, patience, kindness, forgiveness, you get the picture.  Now when all else fails, love saves. Love saves everytime.

However, although love wants nothing but peace and happiness, it also has some enemies and boy are they strong.  Hate, jealousy, infidelity, immaturity, pride, selfishness, misunderstanding, prejudice, do the math.

When these "enemies" attack a relationship, you might think that love automatically comes to the rescue, but no.  Its friends are at the first line of defense.  Maturity tries to weigh things over, tries to think of the next move.  Sometimes it fails because another enemy (immaturity) is stronger and when it does, other friends of love gets defeated too.  But when maturity succeeds, other friends gain strength as well.  Trust and faith rebuild bridges that were burned, the ability to compromise and communication help them.  Understanding and forgiveness close the deal, hence, love is revived and becomes even stronger.

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To end this note, let me share to you one of my favorite quotes, I guess it tells everything I (think) I know about love and relationships.

"Relationships don’t work the way they do on television and in the movies. Will they? Won’t they? And then they finally do, and they’re happy forever. Gimme a break. Nine out of ten of them end because they weren’t right for each other to begin with, and half of the ones who get married get divorced anyway, and I’m telling you right now, through all this stuff, I have not become a cynic, I haven’t. Yes, I do happen to believe that love is mainly about pushing chocolate covered candies and, y’know, in some cultures, a chicken. You can call me a sucker, I don’t care, because I do believe in it. Bottom line is: it’s couples who are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but the big difference is they don’t let it take them down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time. If it’s right, and they’re real lucky, one of them will say something." - Dr. Cox, Scrubs.

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